A Simple Thought on Who's Worth Your Tears

However well-meant it is, please do not tell a heartbroken person that someone who hurt them, someone they loved, is “not worth their tears.”

First of all, you are in effect disrespecting their depth of feeling.* Their tears say more about their heart than anyone else’s, and your perceived “worthiness” of the person who hurt them is not relevant.

But even if it were relevant, I would disagree with the statement on spiritual grounds. We are all worth tears. We can all be mourned. We are all pitiable because of how far short we fall of what we were intended to be, what God dreamed we would be. In fact, you could say the worst among us is most pitiable of all and warrants the most tears.

Unfortunately, it can fall upon the best among us to weep for them. The best are the most in tune with the heart of God and would feel the wrongness of that lack of love most keenly.

* If the statement is actually meant in the sense of “you need to stop punishing yourself, because you did nothing wrong and you deserve better treatment,” that is another story. It would be unjust for a person to beat themselves up for how they have been treated. But if that’s the case, say so!